"The Girl Code?"

I got to thinking about friendship. More specifically, one of my two best friends and future roommate, Felmo. Those who read the blog 'Sex and the Small Town' might know her as Fello. Are girls supposed to follow a 'girl code'? Or do we make our own code? Either way, Felmo definitely broke a rule.

A few weeks ago, something happened. The only reason I am only writing about this now is because I needed a period of time to think about what happened. A few weeks ago, during a typical ooVoo chat with Felmo, I was excited about an upcoming dance, but I was nervous of making a fool of myself. Instead of being a good friend and convincing me I was going to be fine, Felmo decided to hang up on me. When I tried call her back she had logged off and wouldn't talk to me. Later that night she called me back from her iPod and she, Halsey and I had a somewhat normal conversation. Until the topic of why she hung up on me came up. There I was, unprepared, when she showed me who she was skyping. Of all people, my ex-boyfriend. One of the biggest reasons I now have commitment issues, and issues with men all together. And she had chosen him over me, even hanging up on me just to talk to him.

Halsey and I were horrified. Our best friend, one of the two people I could trust with anything, had chosen the man who damaged me emotionally, whom I had dumped with hope of never seeing again, over me. And when I tried to talk to her again, she wouldn't listen and focused on him instead. I soon left the call without a word, and like the good friend he is, Halsey, my best guy friend and future roommate, did too. We chatted for a while, but I couldn't speak much longer. He, thankfully, understood and let me leave.

When I was finally alone, I don't even know what I was feeling. I wasn't angry, or sad, or confused. I believe I was stunned. I couldn't believe the girl who I thought I could trust with anything betrayed me like that. I haven't talked to anyone about the incident after that day. Not Felmo, not Halsey, not anyone. But I want to.

The point of all this is, is there even a girl code, or for guys, a guy code? And is there a general code, or should we make our own? Should we even live by a code? I think yes. We should make up a list of rules with our friends. I am going to with Nikki and Felmo, and soon. Everyone should have a lit of rules to avoid fights or betrayal. Make up a set of rules with your friends. Do you really want to risk anyone getting hurt?